Monday Motivation

I must confess, I have an issue with this one. Especially at the beginning of my first semester of grad school, I couldn’t stop sizing the other students up– making mental lists of how that person and I are different and how we are alike. When I learned that the average age of our class was 22, I couldn’t stop imagining myself at that age and thinking “What was I doing all this time?” I couldn’t imagine entering grad school at 22, my maturity level, the support I had. But it still didn’t keep me from wondering “What if?”

Comparing yourself to others will get you nowhere, and might even slightly depress you. There’s nothing wrong with aspiring to do what someone else does. But you have to remember–you have a unique story. Your life is not meant to look exactly like someone else’s. Even if it compares in some ways, you should trust that you are exactly where God would have you to be right now. And I’m still learning that…

I’m a 27 year old graduate student.

I’ve worked out in the ‘real world’ for a couple of years.

This is my first time leaving my home state and going away to school.

I know the value of good education. I’ve worked for mine.

I know what it’s like not to have your parents give you handouts.

And I’m getting an opportunity to learn from some greats in the field.

That’s my story,

She

It’s My Birthday…

And I can blab if I want to,

blab if I want to,

blab if I want to… 

Last year around my birthday, I composed a Birthday Goal List of 26 things I wanted to work on and improve in my life (I even followed up with that list 3 months later)… this time around I figured I would speak my intentions into the Universe and cut my list down to 3 Goals that I can tackle and now that errybody knows my intentions, I figured it doubles as an accountability tool as well, right?

Well, give a tired woman a camera and some inspiration– and here’s what you get. Excuse my choppy editing ahead of time!!

WARNING: Blabbering ensues… watch in part if you must.

As always, comment welcomed.

Surviving School (at age 26)

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As the semester winds down, I couldn’t let too much time pass without sharing some of the tips and tricks I picked up as an older student returning to school after a 2 year break. Whether you’re considering going back to school, or are still in the thick of your undergraduate time here are some lessons I learned to survive being in school full time. And for a light laugh make sure you also check out 7 Things I Learned from going back to school (at age 26).

GLEAN [from the smartest]

It’s easy to tell after a couple of weeks, who’s excelling in class and who’s just not that serious. It may be the way a student sits in class, constantly answers/asks questions, generally has that ‘no-nonsense‘ demeanor, and even spends a lot of time in the library. There will be classes in which forming study groups is the only means for survival; if you have to be the one to organize the group– by all means, take the initiative. Seek out these exceptional students, and glean from them. In a group setting, glean whatever strategies/methods they use to study, and don’t be afraid to ask them how they prepare for exams or take notes in class.

ANNOTATE [your readings]

There’s nothing more pointless than spending hours reading pages of information you’ll forget the second you’re done with the chapter. Highlighting information you intend to go back and re-read is not real efficient either, because realistically, how often do you re-read text? If you’re going to read, be active about it, and highlighting is not it. Annotation is the name of the game, and it’s basically paraphrasing in your own words what you have read. If you own the book, write it in the margins, if not– use sticky notes or a separate sheet of paper to pull out definitions, theories, or ideas you think are central to the readings. Make sure you mark what page numbers you got the information from, for easy reference. (Source: College Rules! By Nist and Holschuh)

STAND OUT [from the crowd]

I understand you’re shy and you don’t want to ask a stupid question, but you want to be more than a name on a piece of paper– you want to be a face to remember. This is especially crucial for classes in which professors won’t bother learning each student’s name– and they might even tell you this the first day of class. If your professor likes the sounds of their own voice so much they take up all of class time, wait until after class to introduce yourself and ask a question. And keep asking questions or making comments, let them know you’re paying attention.

ME TIME [in moderation]

Understand and be clear about what your down time activities refer to. Is it and hour on Facebook, a social club event, or an evening bowling? Know what your rewards are, and treat them as such– delaying gratification is well worth it because you are learning how to enhance the pleasure by grueling through the painful mud first. After you’ve put in hard work completing important assignments, writing papers, and putting in a decent amount of time studying…that reward will be that much sweeter.

STUDY [without distractions]

Being in the library for 6 hours at a time does not constitute ‘productivity.’ I am learning this the hard way. I study while maintaining a full-blown text conversation. I also freelance study; I get tired with one subject, and move on to another. There is a pattern forming here showing me I’m lacking long-term concentration. Surely my texting is affecting the way I relate to the subject matters on my plate. I will soon come to see what strategies work for one class, and what I need to change in order to call what I do at the library real ‘studying.’ I cannot tell you how you must study (surely every class is different) but I will say that you should monitor what you’re actually learning during these sessions by quizzing yourself, talking out loud to yourself about what you have learned, and other rehearsal strategies. The big show (exams) will not be too far ahead… how will you score?

Best wishes for finals,

She

21 Things: A Birthday Tribute to Maura

On this coming Saturday, April 21st my Big Sis will be celebrating her 30-something birthday. At a beautiful resort in Playa Bonita, Costa Rica. Without me. *sad face*

Anywho, I decided since I cannot be where she is I would send her some virtual hugs and appreciation by putting all her business on the streets. Below are some things I love to love about her, and if you know her, I’m sure you would agree. Feel free to add more things you love about MAURA (pronounced ma-oh-ra real fast!). And if you don’t know her, that’s okay, send her some wishes too!  Audience participation strongly recommended.

Maurita (right) and Tracita circa 2006

21 Things You May Not Know About Maura:

Maurita,

  • You’re the strongest person I know.
  • Your presence and laughter lights up a room.
  • You’ve been married for 4 years now. :)
  • People can hear you coming blocks away.
  • You’re not afraid to leave your comfort zone.
  • You aspired to culinary arts, debt collection, and entrepreneurship before landing the right job doing something you studied: dental technician.
  • You taught me how to drive. (and Chevon)
  • You’re a sucker for love/comfort/acceptance.
  • If someone has your loyalty, they have it for life.
  • You give more thank you ask for.
  • We got our ‘first jobs’ together when I was 19 and you were 26. Then we went and spent most of that money on Roca-Wear velours and Air Jordans on Jamaica Avenue.
  • You make the best bread pudding.
  • You can’t spell for nothing! But I still love you.
  • You came from the most humble woman ever.
  • You’re a hustler, baby.
  • Your toes are comparable to chicken feet. But I still love you.
  • When I got a boyfriend, you dated his cousin.
  • You helped me and my mother’s relationship with the reflection of your own closeness with your mom.
  • You love Fred Hammond.
  • You drive in cars with loud music.
  • You write like a leftie, but you’re a righty.

AND A BONUS….

You are the best sister/daughter/girlfriend/friend anyone could ever ask for!!

God has way more in store for you than you can imagine, I love you.

Your ñaña,
She