A mal tiempo buena cara

I’ve been expecting you. Please, take a seat and stay awhile.

Don’t get temporarily frustrated with the Spanish post title, I intend to make this blog as inclusive as possible. So hold your horses and close the Google search. We’ll get to the expression eventually.

Whew. I  never thought I would have another ‘first’ post, much less  be typing it while sitting at a Costa Rican family’s table feeling somewhat like an intruder. The table is black and shiny with 2 mismatched teapots and a bright red drapey thing as centerpieces, undoubtedly informing you of this family’s Chinese heritage. The living room continues that Asian flair; complete with a fish tank, bright red contemporary couches and intricate vases that probably tell stories only those who pay attention to detail care to know. As far as I can piece together, this household was built on the premise of a Chinese man banging a Costa Rican woman and raising some babies. The offspring,  most often referred to as ‘chinos’ maintain their distinct features (but to a lesser degree), speak perfect Spanish and most of the time are taught Chinese at home. But back to the story at hand. How did I end up sitting at this table, and why did I have to say goodbye to Tica {Em}bracing The Globe?

Well, the simple answer is I had to leave some emotional baggage behind. The complicated answer involves the fact that the blog had been neglected to the point that I didn’t feel connected to it anymore. But most importantly, I could no longer write freely about what was really going on in my life, and so I had to move on. Leaving the old behind, and so here is TETG’s baby, simply labeled ‘Globe Tracer’… live and direct from Central America.

A series of unfortunate events in 2011 left me leaving helpless, alone and confused, not even writing could pick-me-up. I crashed, and this is an understatement. Anyone (including the guy who works at the storage place) who saw me during that time could tell just by looking at me that things weren’t good. When I came across a newspaper ‘relationship’ column today giving women tips on how to bounce back from a break-up the first thing that caught my eye was: Look Great/Don’t Loose Face.  Followed by… ‘a mal tiempo buena cara’ which loosely translates to ‘during bad times, put on your best face.’ ESPECIALLY when things are wrong and you don’t feel good on the inside, don’t let that ruin your outward appearance. This can apply to any tough situation, not merely a break up, although its common to feel your self-esteem questioned when it comes to matters of the heart. Smiling in the midst of pain was something I couldn’t do until I landed in Costa Rica.

A little lame, but true.

I got on a flight at the end of April and I’m still here. Living in Costa Rica as an adult like I’ve always wanted to do. Currently, renting a room in San Jose (the capital) living with strangers in my homeland. Every morning I wake up and take a bus ride while determining the could coverage over this great valley. Cloudy- no mountains, and on a clear day; breathtaking views. I pay$156 a month for a tiny (and by tiny I mean a room that should only serve as an office) ol’ room with a private bathroom in the middle of the hustle and bustle of this Costa-Chino busy household (Note to self for future comfort: Private entrance, room away from kitchen and living room required). And I’m also working- details on that later. But even with all this, I couldn’t imagine any other place I should be right now.

Moral of the story: Whatever you need to, wherever you need to go to get back to happy- do that! No matter how impossible it might seem. If things are that bad right now that most mornings you don’t want to get out of bed, hide under the sheets for a couple of days, bawl your eyes out, let the ugly out.  But remember you have to face the world sometime, and when you do, put on your best face!

Mission Accomplished,

She Traces

PS- Please excuse my appearance as I transition and try to verse through WP, but also keep in mind that in the spirit of minimalism, content will always be first here.

A mal tiempo buena cara

34 thoughts on “A mal tiempo buena cara

  1. Mi linda Tracita,
    I am digging the new blog Tica. Get it out. Stomp on it. Then keep it stepping. Love is hard. Life is hard. But it is worth it no? What else is there to do really? You have inspired me to get back to my cathartic/humerous/sarcastic posts. I may have to start a second blog myself.

    Love you babe,
    Beckita (la otra Tica in the bloggosphere)

    1. *crowd roars* New blog, new blog!! I def miss reading your journal e-mail updates from abroad, they’ve inspired me at some point to be like- I want to travel while pregnant, while not pregnant, with my kids. But, I don’t think anything beats the freedom of getting up and deciding to move- just like that.

  2. Damaris says:

    Im glad that you’re back on track! I knew it would only be a matter of time. I like the idea of putting on a happy face when things are not so good. It’s a way of healing outside to in. Sometimes I understand tho, it’s not so easy. now when will you be back in NYC?? xoxo

    1. Dama back in my life, and who woulda thunk we’d both be living abroad at the same time? Wow, wow, wow. I hope to inspire you to jot some of those witty-ass thoughts you have down. Yea, you too can be part of the blogger club.

  3. So glad to see you start a blog that you can become passionate about again. I’ll never forget that, like me to you, you were one of my first and definitely one of my best blog supporters. I cannot wait to hear more of your adventures; how you came to be in Costa. Seems like you had to drop everything, but perhaps that’s just the impression I get from the wording and lack of specifics 😛

    Please keep us updated! And hey- you are only like, a 4 hr plane ride from Florida! haha

    1. JB, thanks for your comment. No I didn’t have to drop everything; I’m a planner, so I tried to settle as much as I could before I left. I didn’t really leave that much ‘pending’ behind, and I mean that. Just lots of pain and bitterness. I hope to blog as much as possible, keep you in the know of all the adventures I get myself into. I do look forward to celebrating the big 26 in style, a solo trip to Panama! Glad to have you along for the journey!

  4. Jessica says:

    So this will be my third attempt to leave a comment but no worries-everything happens for a reason right. So let’s see if I can remember what I wrote. For starters how crazy of a life change is that! COSTA RICA! Wow. I think this is a true testament to what life is about which is change and growth. I don’t think I would have had the strength mentally, physically, emotionally nor the finances to take on such a life change. Its interesting how God works isnt it? He takes someones negative experience to mature them but also so that others can learn from this experience as well. And in the end he gets all the glory! Amen!
    ! Shame on you! One minute I am texting you about coming with me to African dance class the next minute I read a tweet or FB post about you being in Costa Rica. I hope you do come back soon because we have some catching up to do! Miss you Tica! Much love and God bless. Take Care of yourself! Don’ forget to come back bearing gifts!

    1. Hey Jess, I’m sorry that you’ve had such a hard time leaving comments. Let me know specifically what didn’t work. For sure, I will take an African class with you eventually! Don’t know when, but sometime in the future!! I think fear holds us back from a lot of things, don’t believe that everyday I don’t wonder how the heck I got here. But I can’t think of a better place I’d rather be. What I mean to say is that sometimes we are the only ones holding ourselves back, so before you say ‘you can’t imagine’, try to! Attitude is a little thing, but makes a world of a difference.

  5. Wow!! I can’t believe you’re all the way in CR! Talk about making a change! It seems that everyone is going through something hard and rough in their lives right now. I pray that everything that you are looking for gets found and all that you were running from gets lost. Good luck and I look forward to the new and improved you.

  6. Mimi says:

    Wow! How inspiring. I was in that space when I was 24. I moved to a city I had never been to with nothing but a few hundred dollars, my car and I found my apartment online. No job, knew no one but that was the best thing I could have ever done. You will always be proud of yourself for this decision. Oh, you make me think back to the days when I was single and free. It was those moments that make me a great wife and mom now. Can’t wait to read more!

  7. I have to copy Mimi and say “wow!” I wish I could just get up and go, shooooot…lol. Love the new space and I’m def going to be reading from the beginning and catching up!

  8. Jessicca says:

    I just subscribed to your email list so I will be notified of posse and replies as soon as they occur. I say this to say that I didn’t realize until now that you posted a response. I am going to hold you to that african class and I want to come to costa rica like AHORA!

      1. sunnydelyte21 says:

        Yes, I almost got lost in some of the Spanish… Thank God for spanish class and my Puerto Rican friends…I know enough to understand…lol

        Glad I stumble across your blog…its seem interesting and full of interest culture!! I will check in from time to time!!

  9. I am so intrigued. I can’t wait to catch up on here. I really need to get into traveling more. I have to see some exotic places. “During bad times, put on your best face” this is great.

  10. 2 years later and I’m so glad that GT is still very near to my heart! I traversed through that pain, instability and bitterness to get to a place where I’m happy with the way the story is being written. Things are not perfect, because as human we are perfectly imperfect. Thanks so much to all of you who are still following the journey. My heart thanks you, and my words are carefully selected to inspire you wherever you may be in your journey.

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