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Write the things you need to hear:

You will be successful in your business.

Slow and steady consistency is the key. Successful businesses are not built overnight.

You’re a brilliant writer. Write when you are happy, when you are full, and when you need to be filled.

Holidays without family are understandably tough. This holiday season could be the start of new traditions.

Take time to enjoy where you are. You’re in a good place.

You are on a great path, enjoy the sights.

You are loved. People think about you daily, and pray for you too.

Pray for your family more. Pray for the country.

Make more phone calls.

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Podcast Me Crazy

I have a new favorite thing.

Podcasts are my new favorite thing. BUT to be honest, I don’t like listening to what ERRYBODY listening to. I have tried, on occasion. I’ve been listening to podcasts consistently now for over a year. Sometimes I browse the “popular” charts on my Podcast app and see what’s new at #1. I have varied tastes from book talk to crime/investigative shows, to pop culture. I have varied reasons why I listen to podcasts; to help me go to sleep, to escape traffic, or to find some new recommendations (as in books, etc.) I can only say I listen to a handful on a weekly basis. Here are my top 5 favorite podcasts, as random as I can be.

5. Ear Hustle. A show produced and recorded in San Quentin Prison (California) and co-hosted by a man serving a life sentence. The topics range from week to week about what life is like on the inside. I like the fresh perspectives, and the topics/stories shared by actual inmates on the show. The episodes tend to be between 30 minutes to an hour, perfect for those with short attention spans.

4. Where Should I Begin? With Esther Perel. This is a new release on iTunes. If you never heard of Esther Perel, that’s okay. She is a Belgian author and leader in the psychotherapy world and a proponent of rethinking how we view infidelity (read: polyamory.) In her podcasts, she shares actual therapy sessions (meaning you get to be a fly on the wall) with couples going through different struggles including intimacy, infidelity and emotional baggage.

3. MyTaughtYou with Myliek Teele. I haven’t consistently listened to this podcast, but I enjoy listening to her entrepreneur tips and gems she has learned along the way. Myliek is the founder of CURLBOX. She doesn’t come off like a know-it-all, just kind of like your good girlfriend sharing advice.

2. S Town. S Town is a very involved investigative story. That’s the best way I can describe it. THIS has been the best podcast for 2017 in my opinion. I started listening to it in the house, and then my boyfriend liked it so much that he began to listen to it on his hour commute to work. I won’t even bother explaining what it’s about…JUST LISTEN LINDA!

1. Dirty John. Bear with me here. Another investigative story. A woman named Debbie meets a man online named John and they proceed to move very fast in the relationship. They get married within 2 months…but wait, does she really know who John is? He reads like Mr. Charming on paper, but who is he REALLY?!

That’s all I got folks. Let me know what podcasts you hold dear to your heart…

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School’s In & Other Stuff

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I go back to work tomorrow. *Breathes deeply*

This week is the week before students go back to school. Maryland’s governor has pushed back the start date of school for students in order for the State to enjoy another week of summer break (read: Labor Day shmoney.) For a school-based SLP, this is the week before the craziness begins. There’s a chance to set-up speech rooms/offices/shared space/closets, acclimate oneself with the school schedule, culture, administrative staff, and teachers. There’s also the chance to look at the caseload, print IEP’s and get the organizational systems under way. I like the fresh slate of the beginning.

There’s the exciting part of the newness and then the prayers that your students won’t give you a run for your money. Or that the special education team is not a mess. In spite of all the unknowns, I’m thankful for a career where I’m needed and I’m glad to have a job!

This year, I’ll be getting a big lesson on time management as I work on my passion project part time. With a part time job starting my company and part time in the schools, I’m looking forward to where I’ll be 6 months from now. As for now, I’m enjoying the end of my last day of vacation.

What was the highlight of your summer?

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What About Your Friends?

For many women, friends are our primary partners through life; they are the ones who move us into new homes, out of bad relationships, through births and illnesses.

-Rebecca Traister’s book

Female friendships are a topic I’ve avoided writing about. I have so many thoughts around the subject and yet nothing I felt would add anything meaningful to this blog. It’s true that I become wholly self-aware and self-conscious around the topic. However I’m here, attacking my trigger.

Where do I begin? So let me say that the age of online friendships is a gift and a curse. I blame Facebook. With the click of a button, you “Friend” someone. Is that all it takes? A passive, mindless act? You may never personally message that person, write on that person’s wall, or even have to remember that person’s birthday (FB does it for you.) But you made a new friend. On the other hand, when I learned of my acceptance into Howard University, I took to Twitter. I couldn’t anticipate the people who extended themselves like @PeaceLuvNicole. We met within weeks, and that made the transition a bit easier. There are people who are eager about taking the relationship offline, and I love and appreciate that. I started becoming more and more comfortable with the idea that I could meet some quality people by just initiating the gesture. Although I dealt with general anxiety from moving to a city where I knew 2 people and had no family, Twitter peoples helped through the process. 

Everyone is quick to “like” my minor triumphs and “heart” my Instagram photos — passive interaction has become the default setting, the status quo.

-Felicia Sullivan

I can make friends easier online. You learn a lot about someone based on what they post. It’s not the ideal way, but it’s easy, less risky and convenient. It’s passive. Trying to make friends in real life involves risk. Meeting strangers hoping and praying it leads to something can be disappointing.

Does she like me?

Does she think I’m talking too much?

Am I talking too much?

She’s so fashionable. I wish I could dress like that.

I’m 30 years old, why is this so difficult?

Truth is, I have a lot of standards because I invest a lot when I care for someone. To me, my standards are like the bare minimum of cultivating and sustaining a friendship.

  1. Thou must not be flaky. I’ve experienced a lot of people that will make plans one day, then inform me the day of that they can’t make it. REPEATEDLY.
  2. Thou must spend quality time. This is my love language, not negotiable. It’s the main reason why I make the effort to see friends that don’t live nearby. We connect when we are actually together.
  3. Thou must show REAL LIFE effort. Check-in with one another, attempt to go out and do stuff. You know, real basic and mutual.

I understand that different people need different things from friendships. I’ve always wanted a group of “girlfriends” that I could count on to do life together with. My history with friends has never amounted to that. It’s not to say it won’t happen, maybe it will take some adjusting of expectations.

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Some posts worth exploring:

What the Market Will Bear: The Long Game of Female Friendships

Sorry I’ve Been a Shitty Friend: A Multiple Choice Form Letter

What About Your Friends?