She’s Best Tweets of 2017

Topics range from #firstworldproblems, #food, #life, #career, #mundanemusings.

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10. Making rent payments online is a first world blessing. 12:29 PM – 31 Jul 2017

9. My life has been better since giving up bras. 10:42 PM – 19 Jul 2017

8. I can’t clear my head until I clear my workspace. But lazy. 9:39 PM – 21 Jul 2017

7. Sat on the porch. Talked with the stars. 9:37 PM – 9 Sep 2017

6. I’m learning not every email deserves a response. 4:03 PM – 8 Sep 2017

5. True life: I geek over board games. 5:29 PM – 5 Sep 2017

4. I’m tired, but not too tired to toast some bread up. 10:58 PM – 26 Aug 2017

3. I want to eat some Ramen but I know it’ll taste a little bit like defeat. 9:10 PM – 15 Aug 2017

2. My therapist told me she was having her salmon flown in fresh from Alaska and now I can’t enjoy my basic ass salmon. 5:39 PM – 15 Aug 2017

1. Done choosing what’s safe. Or comfortable. I’m ready for a work setting that’s going to stretch me beyond what I think I can do. Amen 11:57 PM – 7 Aug 2017

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She’s Best Tweets of 2017

What About Your Friends?

For many women, friends are our primary partners through life; they are the ones who move us into new homes, out of bad relationships, through births and illnesses.

-Rebecca Traister’s book

Female friendships are a topic I’ve avoided writing about. I have so many thoughts around the subject and yet nothing I felt would add anything meaningful to this blog. It’s true that I become wholly self-aware and self-conscious around the topic. However I’m here, attacking my trigger.

Where do I begin? So let me say that the age of online friendships is a gift and a curse. I blame Facebook. With the click of a button, you “Friend” someone. Is that all it takes? A passive, mindless act? You may never personally message that person, write on that person’s wall, or even have to remember that person’s birthday (FB does it for you.) But you made a new friend. On the other hand, when I learned of my acceptance into Howard University, I took to Twitter. I couldn’t anticipate the people who extended themselves like @PeaceLuvNicole. We met within weeks, and that made the transition a bit easier. There are people who are eager about taking the relationship offline, and I love and appreciate that. I started becoming more and more comfortable with the idea that I could meet some quality people by just initiating the gesture. Although I dealt with general anxiety from moving to a city where I knew 2 people and had no family, Twitter peoples helped through the process. 

Everyone is quick to “like” my minor triumphs and “heart” my Instagram photos — passive interaction has become the default setting, the status quo.

-Felicia Sullivan

I can make friends easier online. You learn a lot about someone based on what they post. It’s not the ideal way, but it’s easy, less risky and convenient. It’s passive. Trying to make friends in real life involves risk. Meeting strangers hoping and praying it leads to something can be disappointing.

Does she like me?

Does she think I’m talking too much?

Am I talking too much?

She’s so fashionable. I wish I could dress like that.

I’m 30 years old, why is this so difficult?

Truth is, I have a lot of standards because I invest a lot when I care for someone. To me, my standards are like the bare minimum of cultivating and sustaining a friendship.

  1. Thou must not be flaky. I’ve experienced a lot of people that will make plans one day, then inform me the day of that they can’t make it. REPEATEDLY.
  2. Thou must spend quality time. This is my love language, not negotiable. It’s the main reason why I make the effort to see friends that don’t live nearby. We connect when we are actually together.
  3. Thou must show REAL LIFE effort. Check-in with one another, attempt to go out and do stuff. You know, real basic and mutual.

I understand that different people need different things from friendships. I’ve always wanted a group of “girlfriends” that I could count on to do life together with. My history with friends has never amounted to that. It’s not to say it won’t happen, maybe it will take some adjusting of expectations.

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Some posts worth exploring:

What the Market Will Bear: The Long Game of Female Friendships

Sorry I’ve Been a Shitty Friend: A Multiple Choice Form Letter

What About Your Friends?

Coping with Stress

Sometimes I recognize when I’m stressed, and other times, it’s like a typical Wednesday and I just want the work day to end. My coping mechanisms depend on my mood. At times I want to come home and pour myself a bottle of wine. Other times I push myself to the gym, or to pick up some take-out that will help me feel better. Some weeks, I countdown to Thursday when I have my #therapytime. I try not to judge myself too hard when I don’t see the gym for weeks on end. I recognize some coping mechanisms are healthier than others, but they are all helpful in just getting me through the DAY.

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Day by day is the only way we can live, taking what comes and rolling with the punches. With my job, it helps to prepare for the weeks to come, and possibly to take one day or one afternoon to plan for the 2-3 days ahead. In a PERFECT world. Planning and prepping is ideal, but realistically not always possible. Also, there’s times when unexpected things come up, and boom! you have to drop what you have planned and make like a rubber band (super stretchy.)

When it comes to stress management, I recognize Twitter works for and against my productivity. Sometimes during down-time, I vent to the the Twitterverse. I also document tidbits of my day; something a student has said during therapy, or some epiphany I’ve had in the course of the workday. Kids can be comic relief any day. Those days, I’m reminded why I love pediatrics. On days I’m just trying to get a student to sit down and care about what we are doing, my attitude becomes I’m over it and cannot wait until Friday, or spring break, or June (depends on the severity.)

Don’t misunderstand me. I am thankful for my career, which wasn’t an easy road. I think it’s easy to get discouraged, or loose patience, especially when you’re working with others. My ultimate take-away from working in a school environment is: YOU CANNOT CONTROL OTHERS. You hope for a “team-focused, positive, communicative” school team. IN A PERFECT WORLD everyone will consider one another and communicate well. You hope for on-board parents that will take your recommendations seriously. You hope for students that will not refuse services and will put forth their best effort. And this may be the case, overall, but in only takes a couple of difficult students to make things seem unbearable.

We don’t live in a perfect world. Therefore, stress can be expected. IT can also be managed, not in a pre-determined way someone else says you should manage it, but by paying attention to your current habits in a non-judgmental way.

What are some ways you manage your stress?

What are some habits you realize help manage stress that you hadn’t taken into account before?

-Tica

Coping with Stress

These Are A Few…

of my favorite Tweets!

From the beginning of the transition (July 2014) to PRESENT:

July

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/486498672071696384

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/488161050349412352

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/487757113167736832

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/487658374054834176

August

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/502268345446858752

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/504225003483971584

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/504408570713341952

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/505454353952829440

September

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/513548933491335168

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/515004196337516544

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/517139911091445760

October 

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/524928966734663680

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/526138883248234496

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/526549624207990785

November

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/528704105062354944

https://twitter.com/TracitaLinda/status/529674256301703168

I love Twitter. Helps me release thoughts, and then retrieve them when I choose.

Thanks for reading folks!

These Are A Few…

Rockin’ My World: Fall Edition

What i'm loving

  • The summer weather that doesn’t seem to want to leave DC! It’s been in the high 80’s this past week.
  • I’ve finally gotten back into my groove with school. I’m currently seeing 20 elementary school children at my clinic site, as well as 5 classes and a research project which is gearing up for data collection soon! I feel clinic has been more about application and detective work and it’s taking a different dynamic now because more is expected of me as a 2nd year!
  • This lady named Laura Mvula. Her music Makes me lovely. (Also check out song: Unbelievable Dream) Thanks to my music supplier for this one! (*winks*) Any new artists you care to share?

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  • I feel better about my room because I’m sleeping in the closet area. Let me explain, the room is naturally dark with a window in the back. I set up an inflatable bed in front of the closet because the light of the sun shines in. And the sun makes me feel better. The End.
  • Took my first midterm, and was second in my class to finish it!
  • Watched the Hot Water! episode of Family Guy. Father Stan buys a singing hot tub, which in turns makes him choose between his family or the tub– you can’t have both! You should recognize the singer behind the song. The whole episode is full of original songs. (on Netflix- it’s Season 7, Ep 1).
  • My grandmother and mother are in New York from Costa Rica and Florida, respectively. The possibility of seeing them next weekend is making me very happy since I’m not sure I’ll be seeing them during the holidays this year!!
  • The Gladiators are back on TV (#Scandal). I saw the premiere episode last night, but am still feeling like the premise is loosing some of its initial appeal. No spoilers here, but I wonder if it’ll keep my attention this season. What do ya’ll think?
  • I FINISHED ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK, begrudgingly. (SPOILER ALERT) Now I have to wait until Spring of 2014 or summer? That’s cray. Here was my reaction to the ending: NOOOOOOOOOOO PIPER WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?!! I had a premonition something bad was going to happen. It was a build up with the holiday and all that. They broke Vanilla. I mean, everyone has their breaking point. Easily my new favorite character is Poussey. I was glad to see Taystee again, but Poussey is so natural. She’s so darn cute, and I especially liked her tough exterior/sweet interior dichotomy. Believe it or not, Pennsyltucky was another character I hated to love. She’s so damn trashy! I promise I Googled her just to make sure her teeth weren’t really that jacked up. Them things are what nightmares are made of. I liked her flashback story, but I would have liked them to show how she personally negotiated her “salvation” with killing 5 babies. You don’t let that kind of guilt go and become so gung-ho for Jesus overnight. I’m really looking into reading the book, I think I may just do that to hold me over until Season 2.  DO SHARE! Have you read the book? What were your thoughts on Season 1? Fave characters, least favorite characters?

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  • I am on a self-imposed Twitter break. For a month. I am in midterm season, and I have a feeling this semester is going to pass me by. Twitter was getting to be too much, I even find myself thinking in 140 characters now. So blogging is my only online platform, make sure you say hi once in a while. 🙂
  • I MISS DANCE in my life. I’m thinking about paying to take some Contemporary African dance classes when I get some down time on the weekend. Before it starts getting too cold and I will be hibernating at home.

LEAVE ME A COMMENT! What’s rocking your world right now?

Rockin’ My World: Fall Edition

Rockin’ My World: Back to School Edition

  • I’m a second year graduate student and time seems to be flying! Will I learn everything I need to learn by the time these 9 months are up? Probably NOT! But it doesn’t mean it won’t get learned.
  • Orange is the New Black is my new favorite show.  I’m up to Episode 3, and I’m already a groupie. The show even responded to my Tweet today!

  • PRAXIS- By March of 2014 I will have to take this exam and pass it. It’s basically everything you learned in graduate school and undergraduate (or pre-req’s, in my case) in our field of Speech Language Pathology. It is one step closer to graduation, and gives me anxiety. I’m just trying to breathe and take it one day at a time.
  • I’ve decided to go PUBLIC on Twitter. Basically that means my Tweets are now open for one and all to read, whereas before you had to request to follow me before you could read my tweets. The idea still makes me a little hesitant especially because I have to censor myself…and open myself up to spammers sending me tweets with links but I like the fact that I can talk and respond to Tweets of people who don’t follow me, and it seems like I get to engage with much more people now. TWITTER IS A PUBLIC CONVERSATION. And it’s becoming more interactive for me, which I enjoy.
  • My clinic placement is an elementary school this semester. I’m so excited! After having a year of HS and middle schoolers, I’m ready for some kiddies who are just excited about SPEECH!
  • I’m still trying to get used to my new room. But in a couple of months, I may be able to move to the front room where there’s more sunlight! All hail the power of windows!

Overall I’m feeling very confident about this semester!

Tell me what’s rockin’ your world!! Are you back in school? Are you taking a trip soon? What are you looking forward to this Fall?

Rockin’ My World: Back to School Edition